Let’s be real, adulting is hard af. All of a sudden you’re just thrown into the “real world” — expected to find a career, pay bills, manage relationships, all while you’re still confused about what you want to eat for dinner. Trust me, I’ve been there. And I’m still trying to figure it out! But here are a few tips that have helped me get my shit together.
Find Your Good Vibe Tribe
This is one of the most important aspects of creating a zen life — finding a crew that encourages you, supports you and is on the path that you want to walk. It’s no secret that “who you surround yourself with, you will become”. So start taking steps now to find a really solid group and don’t be afraid to let go of toxic relationships. A great way to meet new people is at meetup.com.
Don’t Stay In Unhealthy Relationships
Speaking of relationships, we’re getting to that age where people are starting to have babies — on purpose. Whether or not you’re thinking about having a child at this point, we ultimately all want that fairytale love. But how do you know if your college sweetheart is the one? Well, that’s for you to decide, but if your relationship is not supporting your growth, it is not worth the feels. As we grow as a person, our partner might grow in a different direction. And if your relationship is not supportive, encouraging and respectful, it might be beneficial to have some serious “me time”. Take steps to either shift the relationship to be more supportive, or go out and explore the world on your own two feet. You got this!
Keep Your Emotions In Check
With all this emotional drama, career pressure and just the struggle to survive, it’s important to keep tabs on your mental and emotional health. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, angry or just straight up confused, take time to work address those issues at the core. Get in touch with yourself, your wants, your needs, and figure out what is truly want out of this life. I recommend any type of meditation — zazen meditation, journaling, yoga, floating, jiu jitsu, you name it — to get more in touch with yourself and work through your issues. Because our problems are not just going to disappear, it is important to develop good habits now to help you through the more difficult times.
Take Care Of Yourself Physically
Likewise, it’s important to develop good physical health habits now too — it only gets harder to make changes and become healthier as we get older. You don’t need to go full on #BeastMode and hit the gym for three hours everyday, but finding a form of exercise that is fun, light and gets you moving will be so beneficial to your health and happiness. It is equally as important to get a handle on your nutrition. Some foods increase anxiety, make you sleepy or just doesn’t sit well with you. You don’t need to be vegan, paleo and gluten-free, but recognizing what works for your body to be at peak performance will go a long way.
Become Clear On Your Purpose
Now, I’m not saying you need to quit your job and follow your passion — that would be dope af, but it might not be in the cards for you right now. What I mean by this, is become clear on who you are and what you want to do. Have a solid understanding of who you want to be, how you can help others and what your goals are. This will help reduce a lot of existential anxiety and confusion. Also understand that these views are fluid. Be open to changing your idea of yourself as you grow and discover new things.
Stick To A Budget
With credit cards, bills, avocado toast and music festivals , it can be way too easy to overspend. Creating a budget that allows you to survive, save, and splurge is key. This will reduce anxiety about working and living. Set aside how much you need to live. Then, set aside a certain amount each month that you won’t touch. What’s left is spending money so that you can treat yo’self too.
Let Go Of What No Longer Serves You
Finally, if something doesn’t feel good, you just gotta let that shit go. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. If you leave a situation feeling down, heavy or unhappy, that is a sign that you should no longer put energy into it. Cleanse your life of what doesn’t serve you, so that you can make room for what does.
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